What does that even mean to you? Sleeping in? Vegging on the couch? Watching junk TV? Because doing nothing is widely interpretable. You ever ask a friend, “what did you do today?” And they answer, “Nothing much. Just went to the mall, walked around and took my dog to the park.” Or, “Nothing, I went too the grocery store, cleaned up, ran a few errands…” Doing nothing has this funny nuance of being a selection of random everyday chores or things we do that we’re not super excited about.
Shouldn’t we be? The act of doing nothing in a supercharged, 24-7 “always on” world should be right up on the list next to your all-time favorite things to do on the weekend, vacation or your birthday. Newsflash. Nothing is the ultimate luxury. Make. It. Count.
My blog-a-day plan has been lagging lately. My sister was in town visiting so I carved out a little play time the last few days. We can be opposites in many ways so it’s good to talk to her about some of the things I’ve been thinking about work, relationships and life, in general.
Three weeks into me-time and what’ve I learned?
1. Give yourself all the freedom to explore and in the end you can only work with what’s in front of you–what you know about, what you expose yourself to, what you learn. So open up the toy box or, better yet, go outside and play. You can’t make things happen with out connecting with others and the world around you.
2. Checking out of your Normal doesn’t mean you forget everyone else’s. My friends are still changing diapers, dropping off kids, fighting traffic and having bad days at work. Sometimes me-time should be keep-it-to-yourself time.
3. Go with the flow. When doors open, walk through. When the road gets bumpy, walk slowly. When you hit too many road blocks, walk away.
4. Writing helps you work out the kinks. Putting thoughts to paper commits you to them somehow. The mic is on and you’re up. Writing also gives form to feelings. You realize your fears are manageable, your goal is moveable and that backspace, delete and undo are within easy reach for good reason.
5. Rest is just as important as running full steam. This is true in so many areas of life: exercise, creativity, business…red wine. The saying should go, “Work hard. Play hard. Rest easy.”